Marital Therapy

Pre-marital Counselling: Workshop for Single Adults aged 20 years or more

Dr. Kavitha Praveen

Marriage as a long term viable relationship is perhaps the most important area of concern in family life today.

At the point when most young people marry, they are still quite incomplete, especially when these relationships are formed in twenties and tend to choose a partner who represents the qualities that they feel they lack.

Marital Couple as a living unit provides a way of navigating in the world. Thus, it stands that people choose a partner who can manage in the areas in which they are weak. In the process, the marital unit has to sail through frequent trouble spots which are basically problematic to deal with.

Workshop

  1. Scientific Presentation
  2. Question and Answer Session
  3. Interactive Discussion

Faculty

Dr. Kavitha Praveen, an experienced Marital Therapist with over 15 years of experience dealing with marital issues.

Details

Duration: 2 hours

Date: 15 September, 2019

Time: 11 am to 1 pm

Registrations: Limited to 15 participants on 1st come, first served basis.

How to Register : Contact 9849924478 between 9 am to 8 pm.

EFFECTS OF CONDITIONING ON OUR LIVES

Dr. Kavitha Praveen

Conditioning is like ‘we are used to it that way’ and can be a block for our mind ending up in any activity becoming an automatic habit. We are conditioned day in & day out from sleep to eating, talking to enjoying, what is & what is not & so on.

In this process, we end up spending most of our daily life very mechanically and habitually stuck with immediate results & fail to foresee long term effects. We just do it because that’s how “we are used to” until a strong blow comes our way. Conditioning closes our mind for fresh experiences in life, for the conditioned mind already creates the experience even before one does an action. It can stagnate our life from growing up towards unknown that we conveniently refuse to think about such as “what if” i lose job, loved person and so on sometimes ending in guilt & regrets irreparable.

Doing something consiously by taking fresh look & open mind from time to time can save us from regrets of unable to pull time for what we always wanted to but ended up with no time. Be it your passion, interests, nourishing valued relation and many more, for life is short and can come to end anytime🙏

Services Available

Dr. Kavitha Praveen

Only at the centre & face to face services

Internet based services are NOT available

Children & Adolescents:

Behaviour Therapy

  • Attention Deficit Hyperactivity
  • Anger Management
  • Academic Decline
  • Low Academic Performance
  • Assertive Training for Shy or Introverted children
  • Presentation & Communication Skills (for classroom seminars)
  • Handling Obesity (psychological aspects)
  • Time management skills
  • Life Skills Training

Young Adults

  • Career Counselling
  • Pre-marital counselling
  • Stress Management (education or career related)
  • Screen addiction

Married Couples

  • Marital & Adjustment related issues
  • Couple Sex Therapy
  • Family Adjustment Issues with other family members
  • Parenting Issues

For all Age groups

  • Handling Emotional Issues
    • Depression
    • Anxiety
    • Handling Grief/ Bereavement/loss of loved one
    • Handling fears / Phobias
  • Handling Psychological aspects of long term physical health issues
    • Diabetes
    • Blood Pressure
    • Cardiac Conditions
    • Arthritis
    • Cancer
    • Long term management of physical ailments

Being Productive

Dr. Kavitha Praveen

We all want to be productive in our life but then most of us associate productivity with earning money and other material possessions. How many of us really work towards productive (meaningful) relationships, meaningful learning and outcomes like that?

It is not our fault because this is the way we have been conditioned. We want to see/enjoy/ feel what we have earned and invariably end up collecting lot of material around us. Then we end up worrying how to protect our possessions.

It is important that we associate our productivity with gaining and giving happiness on a daily basis than enjoying our possessions. How is it possible? It is possible by being content and giving without expecting, and being conscious or aware of our actions, making sure we do not hurt others or ourselves.

Happy productivity!

Handling Negative Emotions

Dr. Kavitha Praveen

We live in a society where negative feelings like anger, sadness, upset, frustration, fear, tension, scared often overwhelm our routine life. Emotions are not something that can be easily hidden, whether positive or negative. It invariably finds its expression in some way.

Constructive expression of negative emotions is an effort by itself. It has to be learnt. The earlier the age, the better you learn to express them in an acceptable way. Children and even adults who are introverted, socially inhibited by nature may find difficulty in expressing emotions amicably.

The ability to express emotions in some form, whether speaking, writing, through art, is essential. Otherwise, they may damage the very existence of a healthy living. How to do that? The rule is not do damage you or others but choosing a safe way to express these emotions. Direct verbal expression, writing, painting and your own creative ways can help you to push out these negative emotions from your system, from time to time, before they damage you.

RELATION WORTH KEEPING SAFE DISTANCE

Dr. Kavitha Praveen

Someone hiding facts, looking for others emotional reactions, using them towards their advantage were the characteristics of a typical manipulator.They appear as if your best well-wishers, can be sugary sweet speakers but, in reality they are your emotional drainers, space crampers. Sounding blunt, but there are these relations worth keeping safe emotional distance.

They are experts in taking you for free guilt trips.The more emotional you are, the more easy to induce guilt. These so called manipulators are easy to identify with little careful observation. Almost always they blame the situation or others for their suffering, paint picture of being a victim, most important to notice they do it with deliberate intention, Your guilt is their feed to blame you.

But why do they do it? Some people when they go through extremely damaging hurt / stress in their life, over a period they learn this faulty coping mechanism as a way of protecting themselves. Other possibilities could be active modelling of a close family member in their growing up period (childhood) where they found it rewarding or relieving from stress. Over period they grow upto be habitual manipulators. If you think they are outsiders, mistaken, they are your own emotionally related family members. No escape, learn to survive😟

WORKING AT OPPOSITES

Dr. Kavitha Praveen

Desiring happy married life is a dream for youngsters wishing companionship or understanding partner and so on…But in reality one is attracted to a person with opposite or different nature. Let me explain it, a social one attracted to calm person like that. Unaware of this attraction to opposite character(s) couple busy looking for similarities inviting friction. It’s like choosing a calm going life partner & unhappy that he or she is not social.

The tug of war starts when each of the partner try to pull the other for their liking , be it food, life style choices etc. Instead learning and opening to each other makes relation more fulfilling and complete. This is possible by accommodating, compromising and accepting each others limitations & appreciating strengths. Happy Married Life then worth wishing👫

I Want Freedom!

Dr. Kavitha Praveen

Sounds great. But how many of us can handle freedom? Freedom comes with its own risks and you are responsible for your actions and for how those actions may impact others. Making choices is something that can help healthy growth. But what if we are unsure of the success or failure that accompanies our choice? Is freedom still worth it?

If you can take “failure” as a learning experience and “success” as a good outcome that can possibly be improved upon, then freedom is worth it. Taking risks and making choices with responsibility for our actions helps us enjoy the freedom, no matter whether you “pass” or “fail”. You will be able to handle your freedom.

SHORT-TERM GAIN to LONG-TERM LOSS

Dr. Kavitha Praveen

Wonder what this is about? Let me explain. We are undeniably living in an age of uncertainty with intolerant & judgemental environment around us leading to constant stress in daily life, especially if one is success/ achievement oriented. In this process, without our conscious notice we are working towards an immediate reward that seemingly relieves stress at the cost of long-term loss.

Wonder still where in & what context this makes sense? When we express anger on someone (of course for genuine reasons) they immediately respond in someway, young child by obeying, adult by fear or some other way of reaction. This is rewarding immediately as it elicits a response, but possibly in the long run it ends in distancing those persons.

To quote another scenario, our bread winning education system is entirely oriented towards financial gain alone, but are we happy by earning alone in our life at the cost of losing peaceful & stressfree life? Further more our daily eating habits of eating out mostly and temptation for fast & unhealthy food provides istant taste gratification but at the cost of obesity & health risks.

Point I am trying to make is about our impulsive reactions helping immediate relief leading to long-term loss. “Think before you act” is all the message as to how your own behavior backfires leading to long-term loss. Food for thought 👀

Emotional Balance

Dr. Kavitha Praveen

Balancing your emotions and reasoning (logic) are like two sides of the same coin. Emotions whether positive (happiness, relaxed) or negative (anger, redness, fear, tension) makes one stirred up or shakes one’s whole being till you express them in some form. Similarly, logic, reasoning or practical problem solving is equally important to handle daily short term & also future long term problems. Both emotions and reasoning have to be balanced.

If one is too emotional, then one might not be rational and vice versa. It is always better to be practical but one should also be able to connect emotionally. The so called emotionally balanced person can live life to the fullest than the extremes of too emotional or too rational or logical people. Too emotional or too logical may disturb one’s smooth sailing.