VALUE SYSTEM vs REWARD SYSTEM

July 8, 2019Dr. Kavitha Praveen

We are from a country of rich value system that is respected worldwide, but how much do we value it? Let’s look into the matter.Value system /ethics is a vital aspect in everyone’s personality growth, especially during adolescence where every thing happening around is questioned by oneself. Adolescence is a right period to instill value system due to it’s state of mouldability / flexibility.

Let’s try to understand what this value system is all about. Do not waste food & water, be kind to suffering, respect fellow beings, etc etc. are values we often hear. Our present life seem to revolve on reward system. “I give this because, you give me this & that. What if someone/ parent/spouse can’t give much of what one want, then are they unworthy of affection/ kindness?” Sounds sick, is it not?

Seeds we sow give us the fruits. Let us think little seriously whether we have a value system as adults that we believe in & follow which we can try to instill in our children? Love & food are provided by animals also to their offspring, it’s a biological instinct, and needs no great effort. Real effort need to be given for cultivating right value system of giving without expecting, being self-sufficient & growing as a happy individual physically, psychologically & morally.

Let’s think about our education system

July 7, 2019Dr. Kavitha Praveen

How many parents today are convinced about our education system? While the entire world is changing and evolving rapidly, our education system seems to stand where it was.

Education or learning is a lifelong process. It does not restrict itself to school or college or the acquisition of degrees. Those are only to win your daily bread. The real purpose of education should be gaining knowledge in an area of interest.

Education or schooling for children should be a pleasant journey to figure out their interests, aptitude and skills and building their life on them for the future. Education is not a tool for to fulfil or meet the unmet wishes of parents. Let us be sensible as parents and nourish the interested areas in our children which can promote life long joyous learning for our future generation. Change has to start from an individual, then it slowly moves to cover a society. It is not really required that we have to follow people around us always and make our children suffer. Instead, identify the interests of your children and nourish those interests for their future careers.

Home with young children

July 2, 2019July 5, 2019Dr. Kavitha Praveen

Environment at home, when there are young children, needs flexibility, repeatability and predictability and emotional calmness. This helps young children grow securely with happiness. It is essential to be flexible in your routine, however, regularity of sleep, timings of eating habits, and repetition of actions such as responding with smiles, look of appreciation at person when impressed, are desirable behaviours.

Too much disorganization of home in terms of odd or changing timings for daily routines of adult members and high noise levels (arguments) will confuse children and can form basis for anxiety, insecurity & uncertainty

INTERDEPENDENCE,Mantra of Happy Family

June 28, 2019July 5, 2019Dr. Kavitha Praveen

Happy family is most desired, but less possible if every family member functions independently always, with least or nil sharing activities involving other family members such as meal together or sharing home routine. Inspite of living under same roof our mechanical lives seem not to allow looking at each other,( basic eye contact), smile😊or wish hello. But when in a social gathering it seems we are happy together PHYSICALLY to visible eyes, a false togetherness ofcourse.

Instead a family whose members depend on each other need no showoffs, inside or outside home.”I meet your need while you accommodate mine” does it all, in times of happiness and more so in troubled periods.Golden rule :Accommodate, tolerate and appreciate, this is all a happy family is all about🏡