Conditioning is like ‘we are used to it that way’ and can be a block for our mind ending up in any activity becoming an automatic habit. We are conditioned day in & day out from sleep to eating, talking to enjoying, what is & what is not & so on.
In this process, we end up spending most of our daily life very mechanically and habitually stuck with immediate results & fail to foresee long term effects. We just do it because that’s how “we are used to” until a strong blow comes our way. Conditioning closes our mind for fresh experiences in life, for the conditioned mind already creates the experience even before one does an action. It can stagnate our life from growing up towards unknown that we conveniently refuse to think about such as “what if” i lose job, loved person and so on sometimes ending in guilt & regrets irreparable.
Doing something consiously by taking fresh look & open mind from time to time can save us from regrets of unable to pull time for what we always wanted to but ended up with no time. Be it your passion, interests, nourishing valued relation and many more, for life is short and can come to end anytime🙏
We all want to be productive in our life but then most of us associate productivity with earning money and other material possessions. How many of us really work towards productive (meaningful) relationships, meaningful learning and outcomes like that?
It is not our fault because this is the way we have been conditioned. We want to see/enjoy/ feel what we have earned and invariably end up collecting lot of material around us. Then we end up worrying how to protect our possessions.
It is important that we associate our productivity with gaining and giving happiness on a daily basis than enjoying our possessions. How is it possible? It is possible by being content and giving without expecting, and being conscious or aware of our actions, making sure we do not hurt others or ourselves.
Desiring happy married life is a dream for youngsters wishing companionship or understanding partner and so on…But in reality one is attracted to a person with opposite or different nature. Let me explain it, a social one attracted to calm person like that. Unaware of this attraction to opposite character(s) couple busy looking for similarities inviting friction. It’s like choosing a calm going life partner & unhappy that he or she is not social.
The tug of war starts when each of the partner try to pull the other for their liking , be it food, life style choices etc. Instead learning and opening to each other makes relation more fulfilling and complete. This is possible by accommodating, compromising and accepting each others limitations & appreciating strengths. Happy Married Life then worth wishing👫
Sounds great. But how many of us can handle freedom? Freedom comes with its own risks and you are responsible for your actions and for how those actions may impact others. Making choices is something that can help healthy growth. But what if we are unsure of the success or failure that accompanies our choice? Is freedom still worth it?
If you can take “failure” as a learning experience and “success” as a good outcome that can possibly be improved upon, then freedom is worth it. Taking risks and making choices with responsibility for our actions helps us enjoy the freedom, no matter whether you “pass” or “fail”. You will be able to handle your freedom.
Wonder what this is about? Let me explain. We are undeniably living in an age of uncertainty with intolerant & judgemental environment around us leading to constant stress in daily life, especially if one is success/ achievement oriented. In this process, without our conscious notice we are working towards an immediate reward that seemingly relieves stress at the cost of long-term loss.
Wonder still where in & what context this makes sense? When we express anger on someone (of course for genuine reasons) they immediately respond in someway, young child by obeying, adult by fear or some other way of reaction. This is rewarding immediately as it elicits a response, but possibly in the long run it ends in distancing those persons.
To quote another scenario, our bread winning education system is entirely oriented towards financial gain alone, but are we happy by earning alone in our life at the cost of losing peaceful & stressfree life? Further more our daily eating habits of eating out mostly and temptation for fast & unhealthy food provides istant taste gratification but at the cost of obesity & health risks.
Point I am trying to make is about our impulsive reactions helping immediate relief leading to long-term loss. “Think before you act” is all the message as to how your own behavior backfires leading to long-term loss. Food for thought 👀