Home with young children

Environment at home, when there are young children, needs flexibility, repeatability and predictability and emotional calmness. This helps young children grow securely with happiness. It is essential to be flexible in your routine, however, regularity of sleep, timings of eating habits, and repetition of actions such as responding with smiles, look of appreciation at person when impressed, are desirable behaviours.

Too much disorganization of home in terms of odd or changing timings for daily routines of adult members and high noise levels (arguments) will confuse children and can form basis for anxiety, insecurity & uncertainty

Willingness to change, a healthy factor in emotional bonding

In an emotional relation (between 2 persons), the suffering person has more need to get relief from hurt and hence will be open towards change. However, change in a relation needs to happen for both sides. For long term healthy relational growth, change in a relation is a basic growth point. If only one is willing to change or both are resistant to change, the relationship stagnates to the extent of rigidity or pulling back from relating further to the person.

Especially in long term relations like couples, siblings, the effects can be damaging for a lifetime. Be open to change & live a worthy relation than stagnate & waste precious life.

HAPPY CHANGING!

Pain is a healer

When you love someone a lot, you do not want to hurt them. Good principle, but a meaningful relationship is not possible if pain is not shared or understood. In fact, a problem or trouble in a relation can be a perfect ground for better growth/bonding depending on how quickly you resolve that problem. If a difficulty or problem is tucked safely without addressing it by acts such as avoiding to talk about it, blaming the situation or acting as if everything is going on fine, that will only be a short term solution. Troubles in a relation always accumulate and have cumulative effect hurting the relationship the most. Instead, look at the problem or trouble in a relationship as growth point to bond better. If this is done, pain is always a healer. Happy Suffering

INTERDEPENDENCE,Mantra of Happy Family

Happy family is most desired, but less possible if every family member functions independently always, with least or nil sharing activities involving other family members such as meal together or sharing home routine. Inspite of living under same roof our mechanical lives seem not to allow looking at each other,( basic eye contact), smile😊or wish hello. But when in a social gathering it seems we are happy together PHYSICALLY to visible eyes, a false togetherness ofcourse.

Instead a family whose members depend on each other need no showoffs, inside or outside home.”I meet your need while you accommodate mine” does it all, in times of happiness and more so in troubled periods.Golden rule :Accommodate, tolerate and appreciate, this is all a happy family is all about🏡

Sensitizing on Possible Psychological Interventions for Factors Leading to Low Academic Performance in Children- A workshop

A workshop conducted for parents, school teachers and school counselors on June 29, 2018 at Manasvin’s Center for Marital & Family Therapy

Building Support Systems for Family Members of Persons with Depression-Workshop

A Video of a workshop conducted by Dr Kavitha on May 31, 2018. The Workshop focused on encouraging family members of persons with depression to understand more about the condition, build support systems and ensure caretakers do not neglect their own health.

Role of Art & Art Therapy

Role of Art & Art Therapy in the Holistic Development of Children and Psychological Healing of Clients with Emotional Issues

A brief descriptive summary of the Workshop on Art Therapy held on April 14, 2018

Art, Art classes, Painting sessions, Summer Art Classes! What are they all about? How do they help or benefit the growth and development of children at all ages?

Art can help children improve their communication skills, their social interaction and emotional and physical development.

Are art classes different from Art Therapy? Who can benefit from Art Therapy?  What activities are involved in Art Therapy?

Art Therapy is the deliberate use of art to address psychological and emotional needs. Art Therapy uses the media of art and the creative process to help in areas such as, but not limited to, fostering self-expression, creating coping skills, managing stress and strengthening a sense of self.

Art includes visual (like painting) and expressive arts (like music, clay work, poetry, dance, sand therapy and drama/theatre). Art is different from Art Therapy. Art Therapy involves the use of art for psychological counselling to treat developmental (mental or intellectual limitations), medical conditions (cancer, dementia), and resolution of unexpressed emotional conflicts. Art Therapy can also be used to manage troubled behaviors (Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder, self-injurious behaviors, anger issues in children), building interpersonal skills (socially shy, introvert temperament), regulating emotions in stressful situations (occupational, academic, career related areas) and to achieve insight of more troubled emotions (in abuse, loss of loved on, failure etc)

Art Therapy has several benefits.

Some of these may be physical like building strength in arms, hands and fingers (in young babies/toddlers, in those with weak hand or limb muscles) by activities like holding crayons, paint brushes, pencils.

Art Therapy also helps in sensory exploration, as a fun filled, pressure free, pleasurable activity of creating things that are colorful.

Art Therapy also helps in improving eye-hand and motor co-ordination.

For preschoolers, the creation of art maybe a big accomplishment as they enjoy the process of involving in art by representing real or imagined objects. This helps them develop their thinking process and imagination.

For school going children, Art may help in preparation or further improvement of writing skills and better motor control of the finger grasp. These children can also develop a sense of sharing, responsibility, social skills development and social interactions as they work in groups. Art also helps improve observation skills necessary for life and academics, helps them to interact or be more sensitive to nature and the surrounding environment. Art also helps them share their experiences, express or verbalize their feelings and helps them improve their self-esteem.

Art Therapy can include activities like painting, drawing, sketching, doodling or visual arts. Art Therapy can also include activities of movement or expression like music, dance, drama, role plays, and sand therapy.

Art Therapy facilitates positive change by involving in the creation of something- productivity as an achievement in depression. Art Therapy can also be used as a distraction in obsessive compulsive behaviors shifting the focus away from the obsessive compulsive behavior.

Art Therapy can also help with the ventilation of emotions that are difficult to express using words especially in conditions of anxiety, abuse, or anger/acting out in children as well as in adults.

Art Therapy thus allows an individual to get in touch with their feelings that they find difficult to express otherwise.

Art Therapy modifies the physiology and structure of the brain and leads to a more flexible, adaptable individual. The therapy works with multiple senses (vision, touch, smell, hearing) in addition to muscle movements and social interactions with others. Art Therapy can thus help to heal an individual mentally, emotionally, and physically while they build skills to cope with the pressures of life.

At our center, Manasvin’s Center for Marital and Family Therapy, we use art therapy effectively as a psychological healing method.

We have an artist (trained from Shantiniketan) who works individually and through group sessions. Art Therapy sessions are customized to the needs of each client based on inputs from a trained clinical psychologist and includes visual arts (painting, drawing, sketching) and expressive arts like Music Therapy (Guitar, Flute), Work with Clay, Sand Therapy, Role Plays, Poetry and Story writing and telling sessions.